I know you thought you’d never be dealing with a psycho ex-boyfriend. Having been there before, I know you’re probably afraid to leave your home not to mention you’re freaking out when things go bump in the night. Because you have a psycho ex-boyfriend, you won’t even date the choir director recommended by God himself, and we get it… but this is no way to live.
You can’t blame yourself or live in fear for the rest of your life. Since they don’t come with identifying markings, you need to know some of the signs of a psychopath and learn how to protect yourself from an ex-boyfriend who’s psycho so you can go on with your life.
He’s Your SoulMate
This man will become your mirror. He will like everything you do and dislike those same things, too. You’ll have so many things in common, so it will look like a match made in heaven, but remember rule number one.
Romance is His Middle Name
Rule number one – Always listen to your gut. It’s like DNA… 99.9999% accurate. Besides that, common sense will tell you when things are too good to be true, then it’s just that, too good to be true.
This man will say and do anything to lure you into his world and he’s good at it. He will have you feeling like you’re the best thing since sliced peaches; sweet, delicate, and delicious. You’ll believe every word he says simply because you want to.
One minute he’s fine… he’s laughing and happy. The next minute, he’s giving you the silent treatment or he’s disappeared for a few days. He comes back angry and makes you his punching bag.
Suddenly, he realizes what he’s done and says he’s sorry. You accept his apology but he does it again. When he does, pick your moment, but leave. Don’t give him the opportunity to strike three times.
Intense Sex Life
People say the best sex is with “crazy” people and a psychopath definitely qualifies as cra cra. Trust, you don’t want to get hooked on sex with a psychopath. Once he figures out you want it more than he does, he’ll cut you off and use it to control you.
He Wants Control
He will want to change the way you look. It could be your fashion style or the way you wear your hair. The psycho won’t be satisfied until you look the way he wants you to.
He Will Throw Shade
The psycho ex-boyfriend will take little jabs at you to test the waters. If he can get a rise out of you, he will continue to insult you in front of strangers, friends, and family. He will use “big” words, hoping they are over your head to prove how much smarter he is and so you feel stupid.
Humiliate You in Public
You’re the joke of the day and he doesn’t care if you’re hurt by it. He will create a scenario in public and then pretend you started it. In fact, he wants to get a reaction out of you so you seem like you’re the crazy one, not him.
The Pity Party
The psycho has so many sad stories to tell about his past it’s hard not to feel sorry for him. He will make it appear as though he had a hard life and no one understands him.
He calls all the time trying to find out your location and becomes angry when you don’t answer the phone right away or not at all. On the other than, if he’s constantly popping up where you are and you didn’t tell him where you were going, these could be the signs your ex-boyfriend is stalking you.
How to Deal with a Bitter Ex-boyfriend
Breaking up is hard to do, but sometimes, it’s the best resolution to an unhealthy relationship. If you’re ending a bad one, make clear your intentions. Sometimes, these things can lead to heated discussions, but there are ways to deal with a psycho ex-boyfriend so that it doesn’t get out of control.
Don’t stoop to their level during confrontations. Walk away instead. There’s no shame in avoiding conflict.
- What to do when someone is obsessed with you? Don’t go to the places you used to hang out. The chances of meeting your crazy ex-boyfriend there are pretty good.
- Don’t give any mixed signals or a shred of hope that a reconciliation is possible.
- Do not have any further contact with this person if he’s threatening you. Call the authorities if necessary.
I know you may think letting him down easy is the best thing to do, but it’s not. How to get rid of an obsessive ex-boyfriend? You should be blunt and straightforward so he can’t read anything into what you say or do.
My psycho ex-boyfriend drama may not be as bad as yours, but that’s because I nipped it in the bud and got out when I first saw the red flags. You should too. You shouldn’t settle for less because it’s not worth it. You’ll find a good man… they do exist, but you won’t if you’re still with someone who mistreats you.
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