Why Men Settle for Less in Relationships
Men settle for less in relationships as well as women settle for a man. I’ve seen it for my own eyes. There are plenty of men who want to settle down and they are in a hurry. Because of it, they lower their standards.
Men settle too by dating women who are easy. Easy women don’t challenge men whatsoever to be the best he can be. These women aren’t concerned with who the man is as a person and so, she won’t be able to bring out the best in him.
“The idea of being alone in life can be so overwhelming. Soul crushing for some. Men certainly aren’t immune to it,” says Thomas Fant, a private health-care consultant in New York.
The sad part is we don’t have the same sympathy for them as we do women when marrying the wrong woman. Men need to stop settling for less and accept the challenge of being single until he finds a keeper.
What Makes a Man Settle Down?
“When we are honest, when we rid ourselves of the fantasy, being a single guy is f–king horrible,” says Nick Soman, founder of a social dating site called LikeBright.
Because they feel this way, men settle in a relationship with women who don’t even share the same morals and values or even hobbies as them. She’s not very attractive, in or out, but he will reason he doesn’t need a trophy wife or to be ‘in love’ with her. He needs someone who is loyal to him.
Men, like women, believe marriage should last forever and they do fall in love. However, to live up to what they think a bachelor’s life is, these men date women without any intention of commitment. Regretfully, when they get a good woman, they still don’t know when to settle down.
When a Man is Ready to Settle Down
Often, men overlook the right one by his own insecurities. Thinking she’s too good for him or too cute or high maintenance for him. They are afraid to approach some women because they have already decided on rejection.
On the other hand, some men will settle in a relationship with a woman as long as she has a few of the qualities he desires. But here’s the thing: he doesn’t love her. At the same time, men will marry women who they are not attracted to sexually if she had the required attributes. Could this be one reason why men cheat?
On the other hand, some men will settle in a relationship with a woman as long as she has the qualities he desires. But here’s the thing: he doesn’t love her. At the same time, some men will marry women who they are not attracted to sexually if she had the required attributes.
My advice to women is to know the signs he’s settling for you before you accept the proposal. Men, you should stop settling for someone you don’t love.
Settling Down in a Relationship
But bruh… let me say this: We are tired of tolerating your little girlfriend. She doesn’t have anything going for herself… not a goal in sight. In fact, she’s bringing you and your bank account to ground zero. So, tell us again why do you like this girl and are settling for less in relationships?
Can you please wake up and smell the coffee? Oh, but you can’t, can you? She didn’t bring or make you a cup of coffee this morning. I mean, you’re a good dude. Why can’t you see your worth?
There are good women out there who will bring you breakfast in bed, rub your back, share your goals, and challenge you. Although there’s goodness inside of you, there’s so much more to you.
Don’t you want someone who supports you and your dreams? Someone to have a family with? We know you do, but you won’t get it if you settle for less.
“Marriage is challenging,” says Matlack, of the Good Men Project. “Are you always madly in love with your spouse? No. But being a good husband and a good father is about trusting the other person, about being willing to deal with difficult stuff. I think it’s a sign of maturity on the part of men to admit that.”
Settling or Being Realistic?
Self-awareness is so important in relationships and to your choices. Your significant other should be willing to meet your physical and emotional needs and inspire you to be your best. While it’s normal to fear to be single for the rest of your life, you should never rush into a marriage based on your friend’s hang-ups about being the third wheel.
In fact, this stigma is one of the reasons why men settle for less in relationships and stay in unhealthy relationships. Healthy relationships mean you’re hitting all points – you know how to communicate.
It means you can disagree without pointing fingers and screaming at each other. At the end of the day, it means you don’t go to bed angry and you stick together rather than break up to make up just for the sake of good sex.
Having a good relationship means you’re more happy than sad and that’s what you should concentrate on. Relationships are hard, and we know this, but it’s so much better with a woman who’s worth it.