It’s traditional that men pop the question so why women ask men to marry them? Studies show it’s only a small percentage but that’s heterosexual relationships.
It’s customary to have the man carry the heavy packages, take out the trash and open doors. Having said that, shouldn’t proposals still be a man’s job? Well, in today’s world, women are literally opening their own doors and taking control of their lives. Wouldn’t it make sense women ask men to marry them?
If you believe you must pursue the things you want in life, wouldn’t that include the man you love? I’m just saying if you want to get married, why wait for him to ask?
Maybe it’s because some women are reluctant to even be the first one to say “I love you.” If this is the case, they would certainly be iffy about women proposing to men and if they did, how do they ask? Do you get down on one knee and ask for the man’s hand in marriage? That, too, is sort of a man’s thing.
A Man’s Perspective: Should a Woman Propose to Her Boyfriend?
The man normally decides if he’s ready to be in a relationship or if he’s ready to get married. He is capable of making decisions without any help from a woman. David Marcus, author at the Federalist, says, “Men should propose to women, not the other way around… and there really are good, sound, and sensible reasons this tradition exists.”
The marriage proposal is a traditional rite of passage. It symbolizes a young man making the transition into adulthood or more to the point, manhood. You know like it says in the Bible…“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24
Little girls dream of their wedding day but 95% of them imagined men proposing. Marcus says, “there is nothing wrong with little boys imagining that they have won a girl’s heart and earned her hand in marriage” and women should not take that away from men.
Most women make it known they want marriage at some point in their lives. This is why they spend countless hours swiping left and right. But when it comes to marriage proposals, Marcus says to let a man be a man, let him propose.
I mean, do women ever think about how does a guy feel when a girl proposes to him? If you demand a proposal or do it yourself, then you take a man’s dream from him as well.
A Woman’s View: Should a Woman Ask a Man to Marry Her?
Not many straight or heterosexual women ask their partners to marry them, but blogger Katie Burton, HuffPost UK, seems to think more women should. Same-sex couples propose all the time. (duh)
Katie insists circumstances have changed mainly due to women becoming financially stable and independent. Women are making decisions that affect their lives. They decide when to have children and when they get married if they settle down at all. With this in mind, women proposing to their partners shouldn’t be a big deal.
This article in the New York Times revealed what experts said: “women don’t propose because they don’t want to be seen as less feminine, too sexual or too strong.” Men are baffled as to why women don’t wait for a man to pop the question.
However, UK based writer told Global News that, “Women tend to not propose because they don’t see other women doing it, once there’s more precedent for women proposing, then more women will start.”
Women shouldn’t worry about what others will think. If a man loves you, then it should not matter who does the asking. People will talk negatively about things they don’t understand, so remember that and be happy, say, matchmaker, Laura Bilotta. “Chances are, families will be judgmental about so many different decisions about your marriage and kids, so this may be the start of learning to ignore it.”
Wedding traditions are taking on new meaning every day. Couples are putting their own twist on the wedding and wedding vows. Nowadays, relationships are far more complicated than ever. Still, couples are staying together longer, sharing a home together and even buying their pets together.
This is because of their connection. It feels right that their lives mesh together. And so, when you have this bond, women already know the answer before they ask men to marry them.
If you pop the question and your man goes stir crazy, you may not have the guy you thought you did. On the other hand, he may be confused you asked him and wonder why wouldn’t you wait.
Some people believe Leap Year is the only time when women ask men to marry them. Legend has it that if he refused, he would have to pay a fine. Yep, I know it sounds silly, but it’s the truth. In light of this, if a woman proposes to a man what should she give him?
“An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:10-12