Some people are obsessive. They love how it feels to be in love. Sounds silly, but it’s not. In fact, it’s not uncommon for men or women to have an obsessive personality, though you may not realize the signs. With this in mind, we’re going to talk about the signs and how to deal with an obsessive woman.
It’s said people in love will do some crazy stuff, and I’ve seen it happen, so I know it to be true. Yes, some people do too much. They cross the line and when they do, you should start thinking about change. But first, you need to understand what causes obsessive love.
What is Obsessive Love?
Obsession is when someone constantly focuses on someone or something to the point it’s harmful or consumes their life. It’s unhealthy and often has damaging consequences.
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Although the focus could be something which seems harmless, people obsess about drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, and gambling. However, the most common obsession is with people. It’s not limited to an obsessive woman or even restricted to a heterosexual relationship because obsessive thinking doesn’t discriminate.
Warning Signs of Obsession
The fact is you can have an unhealthy obsession with a person for many reasons. Some are because of past experiences or because they idolize a celebrity, their boyfriend or girlfriend. Nevertheless, you need to be able to recognize the signs of an obsessive personality.
- Wants to be together all of the time
- They are always in your personal space
- Wants to kiss in public or hold hands (PDA)
- Constantly tells you they love you
- They can’t wait until you get home so they can call you and they won’t stop. If you hang up on them, they will call you back. (compulsive behavior)
- Demands your attention (Ummm, okay)
- They may want to move in with you or talk about getting married although you just met
- Actually writes you a poem
- Calls or goes over to see your family, even though you’re not there
- They will try to buy your love
It’s not always so easy to determine if someone is an obsessive woman. Often, the signs she is obsessed with you are similar to normal behavior. Like with most diseases, you don’t notice the symptoms until it’s too late.
Are You Dealing with an Obsessive Woman?
If this person is aggressive, paranoid and irrational when it comes to you, it may be an obsession. They want to know where you’ve been and who you been doing it with. The change in attitude may come as a shock and seemingly, all of a sudden.
The natural reflex is defensive, but an obsessive woman will see it as an admission of guilt and obsess even harder. The question is ‘Why?’ Well, there are a few possible answers:
- The way they were raised has a lot to do with how they act. Their parents may have been in a relationship like this so they think it’s okay or they believe it’s the way people are supposed to behave.
- It could be they were traumatized or have had intense breakups or suffered humiliation previously. Behaving obsessively could be their way odd of coping.
- What you’re seeing could actually be signs of OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). It’s a legitimate personality disorder which consumes a person, but there is help for people with OCD.
Most people find it easier to break up with an obsessive woman than to try and fix the relationship. However, if you care for her, you may want to stick around and help her to overcome or at least, control it. She should seek professional help, but in the meantime, read on.
Help an Obsessive Woman Face the Facts
OCD disorder is a real thing. The person wants to stop destructive behavior, but they can’t. So, how do you know when a person is obsessed or is faking it? To help them, here’s what you should do:
- Have the person admit to having compulsive thoughts. Help them to face reality. Be real with them. In other words, don’t sugar coat this situation.
- Don’t set them up for a hard fall when you’re not going to be there to pick up the pieces. There are real consequences behind this kind of thinking and they should be dealt with accordingly.
- The person with OCD should stay away from the things which remind them of their partner if they break up. Find a distraction or get away for a little while.
- Set a new goal in life. Have something within their control to reach for. Make the goal something which grounds them like writing a book, some physical activity or meditation.
We don’t suggest anyone stay in a relationship they aren’t happy in. If you decide breaking up with an obsessive woman is the only answer, there’s a way you should this, too.
How to Get Rid of Someone Obsessed With You
There’s nothing rational about obsession. It harms people and prevents them from growing as a person. What they must realize is it’s not possible to smother people and the relationship survive. Under those circumstances, the relationship will die. True happiness is not in other people, it starts with them. Other ways include:
- Acknowledge there is a problem and give them examples of their behavior. Make them see how their actions are troubling to your relationship. When they understand what they are doing wrong, they will try to fix it.
- Be honest. Tell them you need your space. You can’t lead them on or lie to them as it will only make things worse. Talk to them so they learn from their mistakes.
- If you love her, reassure her of that love and devotion. Tell her how you feel in a caring way. Encourage your partner to go out and enjoy life with friends and family.
- See a professional. If she agrees to work on herself, make an effort to work on the relationship as well. Changes won’t happen overnight, but they will come if she wants it bad enough.
If she doesn’t want to change, break up with her. Make her understand it’s for her own good and yours, too. Don’t make the other person feel bad about themselves, but let her know you’re setting up boundaries.
How do you deal with an obsessive woman? Carefully and with love. With time, she will find a balance in life. Before anyone can heal, however, they will feel helpless and devastated first. Happiness, like love, never depends on others. It starts with that person.