Some of us may be wondering why do other people naturally attract long-term relationships? The bottom line is this:
TD Jakes said it best in I Need a Word… “He who finds a wife…finds a good thing.” The Bible didn’t say ‘he who finds a woman.’ You have to be wife material before you get married or enter into a long-term relationship, not after.
You can’t make a wife out of a woman if it’s not already in her and the same goes for a man. Stop choosing just anybody to date and you’ll find you’re more successful with long-term relationships.
You have to be ready to commit to a long-term relationship and it starts with you. Do you know what kind of person you’re looking for?
What Do You Want Out of a Long-Term Relationship?
J. Celeste Walley-Jean, associate professor of psychology at Clayton State University and dean of the School of Graduate Studies told the INSIDER, “Heterosexual men are typically attracted to younger women who appear to be of childbearing age and physical appearance.
Heterosexual women have been socialized to seek primarily ‘older’ men who tend to be more financially established and can ‘take care’ of the woman and the subsequent family.”
Not only that, but we want someone who’s attractive, set goals, and has a good sense of humor, but still there’s more to attracting long-term relationships. Did you know your past and your current environment have a role in who you choose as well as biology? Still, there are ways to attract those like you and are ready for a stable relationship.
- Stop looking for the perfect partner and fix yourself. Although you may think you’re ready, there could be something missing
- Some people naturally attract long-term relationships because they do what they want to do in life
- Stop imagining who your partner is and get to know them
- Develop the qualities you seek in your partner if you don’t have them
- Don’t rush into relationships, let them happen naturally
The more you’re around someone it increases your chances of becoming attracted to them, says Walley-Jean. If you’re around people who attract long-term relationships, you’ll notice they have particular habits. Let’s take a look at a few of them.
They Take Care of Themselves
The people who naturally attract long-term relationships take care of themselves. I don’t mean just financially, but physically. They eat right, they exercise, make sure their nails and hair look clean and even give to others.
When you’re not okay, it shows. Personal care is a must if you’re going to attract the right person, according to Sarah Pattells, dating expert and matchmaker.
They Dress to Impress
When you look good, you feel good. This is not a cliché, it’s the truth. You don’t have to put on your Sunday’s best to look attractive. It could be a certain piece of jewelry or your Spanx that makes you feel confident and put a little pep in your step.
They Don’t Say “No”
There are all kinds of opportunities out there. Stop turning down the invites and get out and enjoy yourself. Go with your friends and have a good time. Let the world know you’re alive and kicking. You’ll be surprised what can happen when you’re out and about.
They are Inquisitive
Everyone knows our favorite subject is ourselves, so wouldn’t you think to give someone else the opportunity to talk about them? You should be interested in the other person if you are to attract long-term relationships.
They Want Authenticity
Some people naturally attract long-term relationships because they keep it real. You can’t be phony and ask for a real relationship. You’ll lose trust and this will “only lead to future personalization or disappointment and mistrust,” licensed marriage and family therapist, Allen Wagner, LMFT, tells Bustle.
They Take Rejection as a Sign
Sometimes ‘no’ is a good thing. Pam Thomas, Chief Change Officer and Intuitive at What’s Within U says, “Rejection is just the universe’s way of protecting you from someone who is not a right fit so that you have room for someone who is.”
You should also know that by manipulating a mirror image of the person you’re interested in will strengthen the attraction and bond between two people. However, you must remain true to yourself. Exude confidence, positivity, and love.
I hate to sound like a broken record, but if you don’t love yourself, other people will find it difficult to do the same. You don’t have to be perfect… in fact, you’ll never be that, but you are amazing! And that, my friend, is why some people naturally attract long-term relationships.