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Sometimes, it hard to resist the attractive co-worker, but the golden rule is you must never date your co-worker! It goes against everything you were taught about dating. However, just the smell of him or her drives you crazy, crazy, crazy, not to mention their voice just warms your freaking insides.
You’re with them so many hours a day, side by side. If not together then so close you can see their every move as they float past you attending to their job duties. You tell jokes and chat about your family and colleagues. You assume you know each other.
This is common among co-workers, says author and attorney-at-law, Mirande Valbrune. These are the conversations which spark interest in people. However, before you pop the question and start dating a co-worker, Valbrune wants you to consider these questions:
- What kind of dating history do you have?
- What about your co-worker? Are their past relationships questionable?
- Are you even allowed to date within the office or place of employment?
- Are you willing to risk your job and comfort zone for office romances?
You wouldn’t believe it, but a Namely poll reveals at least 14% of the participants agree dating a co-worker makes coming to work so much easier if not enjoyable. That’s not all. Another 14% said they were more productive at work, but 15% said they did less work.
Well, I guess if you’re going to do it, you should be smart about it. And because I know you’re weak in the knees, I managed to come up with some helpful dating tips for anyone in this predicament.
Let Your Boss Know Up Front
Don’t hide the relationship from your supervisors or managers. You don’t want them hearing the gossip from the ‘haters’ or the girl who simply can’t hold water to save her life, let alone your job.
Besides, it’s a sign of respect and maturity that you’re honest about dating a co-worker. Reassure your boss the relationship won’t get the way of your responsibilities and live up to your promise.
Don’t Involve Co-Workers in Your Relationship
The fewer people who know about your office romance the better off you guys will be. Don’t put them in the middle of conversations or arguments. Leave your disagreements outside in the parking lot or better yet, at your front door. If you ever break up, your other colleagues won’t have to worry about choosing sides.
Be Friends First
While you shuck and jive (e.g. kick it, have fun, hang out) at work, doesn’t mean you’re really friends. Take your time and actually date your co-worker. Don’t be easy is what I’m saying. That’s the worst thing you could do even if it wasn’t someone you work with.
While you’re thinking it is the start of a relationship, he may blame it on the alcohol and it means nothing to him or vice versa. Try to develop that bond true friends have before going there.
While at Work, Work
It may be difficult now more than ever to concentrate on your work, but since you didn’t take my advice when I told you why you shouldn’t date your co-worker, you must suffer from the wicked temptations of seeing your lover walk slowly by and not get a kiss or hug from them. Nope, don’t even think about making suggestive eye contact or hold hands under the table.
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Don’t Bad Mouth Your Co-Worker
In the event you guys don’t make it as a couple, that’s still your personal business. The office doesn’t need to know about her flaws underneath the work ‘uniform’ or his screw ups as a boyfriend.
It’s petty and you know it. You consented to the relationship and it has nothing to do with their job performance, Monica, so you need to zip it. What happens when you date your co-worker, stays with you and your co-worker.
Keep Your Old Friends and Hobbies
While it may seem like the best idea, in the beginning, working with and dating a co-worker can drive you insane. It may be a cliché but it’s true – separation brings about appreciation.
Too much of anything is not good for you and that’s one of the reasons why you shouldn’t date your co-worker. Maintain your friendships and lifestyle before you met. If you don’t, chances are you’ll be sitting at home while he’s hanging out doing what he or she wants to do. This is going to make you resentful and angry. In other words, don’t put everything into a new relationship.
Whatever you decide to do, don’t make dating a co-worker your thing. Please, don’t own the reputation of being the office thot. Once you gain this title, it’s difficult to get rid of. Besides, it doesn’t look good on you when all you wanted was a little love and happiness. At the same time, if you have psycho tendencies, you should never date your co-worker.