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When you realize you’re just friends, it hurts and I mean bad! If you want to be more than friends, and the other person doesn’t, you feel rejected in a way you may never ask anyone out again. Goodness, why does life have to be so unfair?

When you realize you’re just friends with the guy you thought you were dating, you’re stunned. You knew you were dating this person and had marriage goals, but did you tell the other person? Your partner may love the single life and want no part of the ball and chain.

What do you do when you finally have the “talk” and you realize you’re just friends? Not only that, but you learn you’re not even exclusive and he likes things just the way they are?! [Ugh!!!!] I know how you feel. I’ve been exactly there a time or two and just recently.

When you realize you're just friends
When you realize you’re just friends, the fun is over if you wanted more than friends.

The male female friendship can be tricky. On one hand, you guys hang out, you have fun, you call him and he’s there for you. You thought for sure he was showing signs he likes you more than a friend. Well, guess who thought wrong. Yeah, it sucks to be us right now.

Hang on, we’re going to talk about this in a little more detail, so don’t go away upset now. Keep reading to find out what else I have to say. Okay? Okay. First of all, do you really know what a relationship is?

I don’t mean that in a bad way [Lawd, again, don’t take that the wrong way. I mean it with love and affection.] Let’s find out the true meaning of a relationship while you still on the page.

When he flirts with other women around you, it’s a sign you shouldn’t ignore. 

What exactly is a relationship?

The online Dictionary defines a relationship as forming an emotional bond or involvement between two people who perhaps are dating. However, you can develop an emotional attachment or just be friends with a parent, teacher, neighbor or even the drive-thru attendant.

Misunderstanding in relationships can leave you discouraged

The thing about relationships is we don’t always know where we stand in them, or if we are more than friends, especially when dealing with casual relationships where intimacy is involved.

In a situation where only one person wants to be more than a friend, it can leave you empty and lonely. I mean a man knows when a girl shows signs she wants to be more than friends, but he’d rather lead her on or ghosts before he tells her otherwise.

And it’s not uncommon couples have their ups and downs, but when two people do not establish their expectations and desires in a relationship, it could lead to trouble. When you have to ask are we more than friends, you’re already in trouble.

You’re just friends if…

I’m not going to lie and say relationships are easy. They need nurturing, but how do you know you have graduated from being friends to being his girlfriend or his lady?

Some never advance to the next level, regrettably, because relationship goals are never discussed. However, there are clues to let you know you’re just friends. Check them out –

  • Doesn’t text or call you back in a timely manner
  • If he doesn’t make plans to include you
  • Doesn’t want to cuddle with you
  • Always inebriated while with you
  • If he’s flirting with other women in your face
  • You have to beg for his time
  • Refuses to meet your friends and family
  • Doesn’t show a public display of affection
  • Answers relationship questions with vague statements
  • He doesn’t spend the night
  • If he does sleep over but doesn’t touch you… at all
  • Doesn’t dress up for you
  • He doesn’t take you out in public
  • Always too busy to do what you want to do
  • Does not introduce you as his lady or girlfriend
  • If he doesn’t spend holidays with you
  • When he calls you “Buddy” or “Bruh”
  • If he says “We are just friends”

When you realize you’re just friends, what’s next? 

What do you do when you realize you’re just friends, but you want more? If your partner doesn’t want a commitment, there are tactics at your disposal to get him to dedicate his love to you. With that said, you must be sure he is into you, otherwise, you’re wasting your time. 

Sometimes, men take relationships slower than women and most have good reasons.  If he’s taking his time, so should you. Seeming needy is one way to scare him off and you don’t want that.

When you realize you’re just friends: Conclusion

Are there signs a guy likes you more than a friend? Absolutely! Start by discussing your needs. A relationship, which is healthy, will require both partner’s participation in reaching a common goal.

Be absolutely honest about what you want and expect.  Do this first and not when you realize you’re just friends. And for goodness sake, don’t settle in relationships, but there’s nothing wrong with the two of you being just friends. Take your time to get to really know him.  

Can men and women be friends? Of course, they can, but remember you are responsible for your own happiness. You must take control of the wheel and make yourself happy before you can make anyone else happy.

Smothering a person is one of the top mistakes which will kill a relationship, along with giving a man an ultimatum. In addition, don’t give him all of the pieces to puzzle all at once and certainly not on the first date.

When you realize you’re just friends and you have devoted your time to him and to building a non-existent, romantic relationship, you’re going to be a little upset you didn’t take it slow.

Try embracing the friendship if you think he’s worth the wait.  But in the meantime, remember this – Never lose yourself in the other person… keep your identity. Don’t be so willing to get with the other person, you’re willing to do anything.  

At the end of the day, he should want to join your team. After all, it’s all about you, Pearl! If he’s not treating you right when you realize you’re nothing special to him, it time to check out.

Read more – https://www.glamour.com/story/10-signs-youre-just-friends

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Mikki Donaldson is a southern girl, born in “hard time Mississippi.” She, like her town, has seen many hurricanes, but bounce back each time. Mikki is no different from any other person with a passion, late to bed and early to rise. The writer adores her family and seeks to leave her mark on this remarkable world.