Men cheat with ugly women for several reasons but there’s one answer everybody agrees with and it’s not a very pretty one. I’ve been cheated on with a dumb girl before, but not an ugly fat chick, or at least I don’t know about her. Have you?
Guys who cheat with ugly women, according to “Mr.” and to the experts, say it’s because she’s easy! It’s a painful realization no matter if she’s ugly or pretty, don’t you think? To find out someone is cheating hurts! So much so one lady wrote in about it, so check this letter out.
I’m so hurt right now and I really need to talk to someone. I have friends but I don’t want to talk to them about this. I know they are going to have plenty to say, but I don’t want to hear it.
Besides that, I’m embarrassed to tell anyone my boyfriend is cheating on me, let alone tell anyone the girl he’s cheating with is an ugly fat lady.
I can hear the girl’s now telling me I shouldn’t put up it and I should leave him. Maybe I should, but maybe I shouldn’t… just yet anyway.
So, I’m writing you, instead, hoping you can shed some light on why do men cheat with ugly women. I had been noticing my boyfriend was texting more than usual lately but especially at night. I asked him about it, and he said it was one of his friends.
He said his friend’s car broke down and he was helping him out. I didn’t think anything about it, my boyfriend’s a nice guy. But once I overheard his friends talking and laughing about some new chick he met. Apparently, she took a pic of them together and posted it on Facebook.
Mikki, this girl is a hot mess. Her hair looks like a cheap wig she put on backward. She looks like a stack of chocolate ice cubs. She has no shape whatsoever.
On top of that, she looks like someone who had Botox injections and they failed miserably cause her lips are too big. I don’t want to talk bad about her, but she looks like the walking dead. My god, what does she have over me?!
On the other hand, I don’t mean to sound conceited or arrogant, but I got it going on. I’m pretty…I mean, I don’t have to wear makeup to be cute. Mikki, I work out and have my own place and a nice car.
I work all the time so I don’t ask him for anything! The difference between me and her are are like night and day so, what’s the deal, Mik?! We don’t do the drama thing so, it’s not like we’re arguing all the time and acting out like children. I thought we were mature adults.
All his friends say he doesn’t deserve me. Omg, I can’t for the life of me figure this thing out. To be honest, I’m hurt to the core, but he’s a good guy and I don’t want to take this out of proportion when it could be nothing.
Don’t get me wrong – I’m highly upset he’s cheating, but I want to be logical and smart about this. Truthfully, I kinda expected it to happen sooner or later in our relationship. We’ve been best friends since we were in kindergarten and courting since junior high school.
I don’t want to lose my bestie and a good man over some ugly, funny shaped side chick. We are about to finish college and begin a terrific life together. I guess it could be worse. I could be writing asking about married men who cheat with other men, so please, help me.
Can you tell me why did my man cheat on me and what advice can you give me?
Dear Georgia Peach,
Well, you sound like a really nice and well put together individual. You seem to have a level head on your shoulders and yes, any man would be lucky to have someone like you.
Often women think it’s their fault the man cheats however, we know we didn’t put a gun to his head and make him go there. So, with that said, let’s get down to the nitty-gritty.
It always takes two to tango but we’re also living in a society where cheating and casual dating is thought to be the norm. You have two issues going on – 1] Why did your man cheat and 2] Why did your man cheat with an ugly woman. No worries, we got you.
Men cheat with ugly women because they make a decision to – plain and simple. Sometimes, relationships don’t survive because of it. Women cheat, too, so we can’t always place blame on the man. I know that’s not the answer you’re looking for but we’re going to discuss it further.
Men cheat but women aren’t saints
You mentioned you work a lot, so he has more free time. Part of that time he like most men, spend thinking about intimacy. When they are in the mood and their partner is not, some make a decision to test the waters.
It’s natural for your man to wonder as you two have been together since childhood. If you’re totally honest, can you say you’ve never thought about what another man is like? I’m sure you come across attractive men every day. Have you ever been enticed? Lost in thought, maybe?
In either case and in your case, he knows your schedule and can’t afford to do anything out of the ordinary too much or else you’ll become suspicious. With this in mind, he doesn’t have time to develop a relationship.
So, the easiest thing for him is to get a girl he doesn’t have to work for or spend any real time with or spend any money on. Because we all know, we raise our eyebrows when all of a sudden there’s money missing. Or when he can’t pay because of this and that and it becomes a habit.
Hence, the reason men cheat with ugly women. She, the ugly woman, is ready to take on a casual relationship… any relationship for that matter. For some less attractive individuals, the opportunity doesn’t come often so when it does, they jump on it. [No pun intended.]
This is not solely my opinion, but that of the relationship experts, so please don’t shoot the messenger. They go on to explain the side chick may not ask any relationships questions like “Are you married or do you have a girlfriend?” for fear of the answers. She also doesn’t want to upset him.
The ugly girl with low self-esteem
The ugly girl may have self-esteem issues and that, men, say make her an easy bird. They give her a few compliments, buy her a meal and that’s all is needed to make her feel desirable. She feels great she’s getting attention. No wonder men cheat with ugly women.
Although the results are temporary, the ugly woman was not alone for the moment. We can all understand how it feels to want somebody to love and have no one to wrap your arms around, right? However, I think it’s pretty sad to take advantage of a person who has low self-esteem.
And let me say this ain’t helping the matter either. It sends a message to her that’s all she’s good for, so she accepts it, hoping he will see her for who she is on the inside and fall in love.
Umm, yeah, but this, too, has happened before so just because she’s not attractive, doesn’t mean she is not capable of having a boyfriend or even getting married.
Not all men cheat with ugly women
Why does a man cheat on a loyal woman? The point most overlooked is that most of the time, cheating has nothing to do with a current relationship but everything to do with the man. In addition, the other woman is not always ugly.
Men cheat with ugly women because they know they do not deserve a good woman. Yes, I said it. Men cheat to feel better about themselves, ironically. Because they know they don’t deserve a good woman. Consequently, they give you reason to quit them or either come down to their level.
Their partner can be the perfect image. She can be beautiful, intelligent, career-oriented, a top chef and a beast in the sheets and a man will still cheat on her. Not only that but he will cheat with someone who is ugly.
Secretly, he’s hoping he’ll be found out so he can quit the relationship without having to explain the real reason. He knows she deserves better and this is his way of pulling out of the relationship. On the other hand, a woman doesn’t have to be ugly to have low esteem.
Most men cheat with ugly women because they are insecure, needy and have low self-esteem, so they cheat to boost their self-importance. Tiger Woods is a prime example of what we’re talking about.
Married men cheat with ugly women
Tiger’s wife was drop-dead gorgeous and he cheated on her with a “D-list celebrity.” [We’re still trying to figure that one out. Well, not really, but you know what I mean.] The difference between the two women is incredible.
Nonetheless, he falls into the category thinking he doesn’t have to explain himself, he doesn’t have to put in the work with an ugly girl or an ordinary girl that he does his wife. Meanwhile, the wife is stunned and puzzled, thinking it must be her.
What women think when men cheat
- Is it because I gained a few pounds?
- Should I do it more?
- I shouldn’t have taken that position at work.
- Should I have kept my mouth shut?
- Am I too old?
- Is it the baby?
It’s sad because it’s just a trick – a mind game to him. He wants the woman to think he’s the greatest thing since sliced bread and she should be lucky to have him. In reality, she’s settling for less in a relationship. However, there’s one thing wrong with this game.
A woman’s worth
A woman who knows what she’s worth won’t buy it. If she truly loves her man, she will give her all. She will not let him sit around and be unproductive. She will help him pursue his goals and dreams.
A good woman will pray for him… an independent woman will not let him eat off her. But “when a woman’s fed up…” come on, y’all… “it ain’t nothing you can do about it.”
Now, some men and women will say men cheat with ugly women because his wife is not satisfying him in the way he wants. That may be true in some cases, but it’s a relationship myth or a lame excuse to cheat.
They argue the side chick will and that’s why he will seek pleasure outside the marriage.
Why do men have affairs? They aren’t ready to maintain a healthy relationship.
Some men who cheat repeatedly, I think, are just not capable of having a monogamous relationship. Others, when found out, quit cheating. I could be wrong. I welcome anyone who can dispute this theory. Leave me your comments below.
In light of this, the question now becomes do married men miss their mistresses? I think they do especially if the relationship was long-term or there was some sort of a bond. Some side chicks become wives. I think this happens more so because the first relationship wasn’t working.
Men cheat with ugly women: Conclusion
Just a thought: If there are more women than men, do women cheat more than men? What percentage of men cheat? I don’t really know but Women’s Day mag says over half of married men cheat on their wives. I think it’s more than that, but hey… they’re the experts.
Personally, I love the single life. I love dating and flirting and going through the process of courting. Yes, I believe in the three-month rule of dating. I used it when dating a Jamaican man and it paid off! I think many people would be better off if they practiced it.
In fact, using the advice of someone dear to me and a very logical thinker, I think it should actually be six months. However, we’ll talk about that in another blog. Until then, I gotta go… it’s time to balance the ledger.
Remember, men cheat with ugly women because they can. The way to stop cheating is to respect the relationship a person’s currently in and say no.