Dating without commitment seems to be the thing right now. It’s amazing how many of us choose casual dating over fidelity!
When the person you care about says the last thing they think about is a future with you, it can hurt! Not only that but, it can frustrate and confuse the sharpest mind. But who really knows how to date casually without getting attached? What type of person does that?
Dating without commitment
Normally, boy meets girl and they hang out with each other. Maybe, on the second date, they decide it’s not so bad and continue to “see where it’s going.” They take the acquaintanceship to another level and become “close” friends.
It’s always wise to talk before things get too intense, but not just any discussion. The couple should decide what type of relationship they want or discuss their relationship goals. That decision could change over time as someone is going to catch feelings. So now, the fun you had becomes meaningful, but for one.
In case one person starts to have feelings for the other but the other person still commits to the single life, having a one-on-one relationship is not likely going to happen soon.
And because you both agreed on the casual dating rules, there’s a problem and conversation is awkward.
We spend too much time thinking about where we stand in a relationship rather than enjoying the ride. In this case, we are usually looking for another type of relationship. Do you make these simple mistakes in casual dating?
It’s normal to look toward a future with someone you love. However, there’s a problem when one person doesn’t want to take the relationship to the next level and you do.
How long should you be dating without commitment?
Regretfully, people fall in love without having commitments. Consequently, they find themselves investing in the other person wholeheartedly, but get nothing in return. Hopefully, we have pulled out before this happens.
How long we date someone without a commitment depends on the individual. Evan Marc Katz says a couple of months is enough time. Anything beyond a year is a waste of time.
What’s crazy is we come up with every excuse in the book in his or her defense. Not only that, but you’re speculating how to make things better. We crave their attention to the point where we are willing to do anything.
Why do we drive the world insane with our excuses, all the while knowing the truth deep down? We get behind closed doors and have a tantrum when we can’t get what we want when we want it. At the end of the day, we feel just awful because of it.
Feeling alone in a relationship
Nothing is sadder than having an empty feeling inside as though nothing is left. You notice the phone calls aren’t as frequent and you haven’t gone on a date in weeks! What’s going on? Is this the part where you panic and freak out or remain calm and cool?
When the person you love starts to show signs of indifference, do you know what to do to reel them back? Or do you even know why they changed? Sometimes, we don’t have a clue! But keep reading, we have more tips about this type of casual dating you can use.
Dating without commitment vs serious dating
Being in love, actually, scares a lot of individuals. These people separate themselves from the situation, not allowing themselves to be vulnerable or to lose control. People, but especially men, are strange creatures and in most cases, wandering (cheating) is natural for a hunter.
The fact he roves may have nothing to do with how he or she feels about you. Ironically, it could be the other party is starting to have deep feelings about you, so they’re the type to pull out.
Eventually, he’ll work through his feelings and make a decision. What we do while he’s in the decision-making process can alter the course of his thinking and the course of the relationship. Therefore, you need to choose your path carefully. I know, dating without commitment is confusing.
What does casual dating mean to a guy?
Men see dating without commitment as a means of having fun. They can meet women with the same interest as them and hook up when they are ready to date or when they have the time.
Otherwise, you’re falling for someone who could possibly be emotionally immature or just not settled on the idea of having one companion and that’s okay.
It’s true, men and women are on different planets when it comes to love and relationships, but if you seriously want this person, stick it out and in the meantime, do you, but don’t screw it up. Casual dating could mean something totally different to a guy.
Have you been wanting to take a course? See if it’s available and do it. As a matter of fact, take a short vacation. Now is the perfect time to get away as they say absence makes the heart grow fonder, but at the same time, you don’t want to be gone too long.
Anchor yourself in the relationship to show loyalty and devotion, but don’t lose yourself as this could have catastrophic results.
Communicate your relationship goals
One of the things to remain vital to any relationship and that is communication. Voice your desires and expectations so there’s no question about your type, needs, and expectations. If you’re a cougar dating a younger man for fun, tell your partner!
If you would like to get married one day and settle down, say it or say you don’t want any part of a family or a home with the white picket fence.
On the other hand, as a single woman, you reserve the option to explore your options. He will think about this while laying in bed at night. Word of caution: If you say you’re dating someone, you must be seeing someone else.
While you’re hopeful your current mate is the one, they could not be. So, with that said, continue dating and get to know other people.
What we do for relationship titles
Before we met this person, we knew exactly what we would and would not do for love, but we find ourselves bending and breaking rules that once received high priority.
We become obsessed with having that other person it consumes every minute of our spare time and even affects our work performance. If this is you, perhaps now is a good time to remove that anchor before you drown.
These casual dating tips aren’t set in stone, but I have just one more: If he’s content with dating without commitment, don’t you commit! You are in for a rocky road ahead if you become overly involved with someone who doesn’t feel as you.
It’s painful but we heal and eventually, we move on. With so many fish in the sea, there’s no real reason to suffer long. Got it? Good.
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